Couples therapy is a unique opportunity to safely explore your relationship, interactional patterns, and the universal "dance" that we all can enter into in our most intimate adult relationships. Often there is an identifying situation or contextual issue that may bring you and your partner(s) into relationship counseling, such as family planning; financial stress; work/life balance; parenting; communication difficulties; sexual intimacy; life cycle transitions; employment stress; negotiation of conflicting needs; individual differences; navigating an open relationship, consensual nonmonogamy, or polyamory; in-laws and extended family; reproductive assistance or infertility; child loss; moving through gender identity transition; emotional or physical infidelity or other forms of betrayal; grief and loss; difficulty adjusting to changes in the family, couple, or relationship structure; and addictions or other emotional/mental health related challenges.
When relationship issues arise, you or your partner(s) may end up feeling:
Unimportant, alone, or ignored
Not good enough or that you can't "get it right" with your partner
Anxious or afraid of losing your partner
Fear of losing yourself or your individuality in your relationship
Shut down and withdrawn
Distrustful or suspicious of your partner
Unseen or unheard by your partner
Angry and resentful at imbalances of power and control
Through our work together, I will help create a safe, egalitarian relationship with you and your partner(s) to help you see how your emotional experiences direct your relationship dance, which is the interactional pattern that becomes reinforced over time, causing distress and distance rather than safety and connection. The therapy process will begin to illuminate the underlying emotions and needs that are often disguised or lost in relationship conflict, and you will learn how to create a more secure and satisfying emotional experience together where you can interrupt the cycle before it escalates. In your relationship therapy, I pull strongly from an intersectional and contextual frame and integrate approaches from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Imago Relationship Therapy, and Gottman Therapy in our work. I also hold a Sex Positive Approach with respect for the wide range of unique sexualities, gender identities, and relationship structures that exist. I emphasize the power of emotional experience in relationships and how such power can be used to reconstruct intimate bonds, with the aim of therapy being to increase accessibility and responsiveness in your love relationships so that you can feel seen, heard, and understood by the one who matters most.