An Integrative, Decolonizing Approach to Relationship Therapy

Relationship therapy is a unique opportunity to explore yourself, your relationship, and the undercurrent of your unique and collective contexts that shape connection and disconnection. At the heart of how I hold this work, is the deep commitment to decolonizing therapy; tuning into the dehumanizing effects of colonization and systemic oppression, so the healing journey uplifts these truths in real time. And we center the innate, diverse, cultural, ancestral, and communal ways of healing that we all carry inside.

With over 20+ years in practice, I draw from a range of approaches to meet your relationship’s unique needs. My work integrates body-based, relational, liberation, and attachment-focused modalities, including the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, PACT: Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), Gottman Method, EFT, Relational Life Therapy, and Imago, along with strong influences from Esther Perel, Kimberly Crenshaw, Jennifer Mullin, Judith Lewis Herman, Stephen Porges, Deb Dana, Dan Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson, Peter Levine, Jean Baker Miller, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Carl Jung , Resmaa Menakem, Ken Hardy, Ignacio Martín-Baró, Paulo Freireand, and Jessica Fern to name a few. I also incorporate sex-positive, trauma-informed, and spiritually integrative perspectives.

Together, we’ll focus on building a more secure, interdependent relationship ~ where connection and autonomy can coexist. I’ll support you in setting self-focused goals, strengthening your capacity for reflection and expression, and deepening your ability to listen, respond, and relate across differences with clarity and care. We will focus on self-regulation and coregulation as equally vital resources for creating a safer, more fulfilling process toward presence.

We’ll explore how attachment, differentiation, and threat perception shape your dynamic ~ especially the “well-worn” relational patterns that can create distance or distress. These patterns often have roots that predate your relationships, and bringing awareness to them opens the possibility for change.

Some signs these dynamics may be present include feeling: unseen, alone, not good enough, unimportant, fear of abandonment, afraid of losing yourself, shut down, can’t get it right, or distrustful.

As our work deepens, we’ll uncover the underlying wants, longings, and needs beneath these patterns. You’ll know the process is working when you feel clearer about yourself, more able to express your truth, more regulated in your responses, and more grounded in making relational choices that honor you and your beloveds, communities, and the collective.

Too often, we’re taught that being fully ourselves risks losing connection. There is so much more possible if we slow down, tune in, and speak from our heart. I’ll support you in creating a relationship that allows for both authenticity and deep, meaningful connection.